Monday, March 16, 2009

Gift or Burden?

My 'blessed' friend and I were talking...another whose lot in life seems to be tending wounded birds, that or we both seem to have attracted more than our fair share of troubled souls into our life throughout our life, people who only seem to stick around for as long as we're needed and then very obviously disappear when they can fly again. My friend said it's good as it shows that we're the kind of compassionate people others feel they can open up to and talk to about things they can't confide in anybody else...

I was reading Nova Holistic Journal and read about an Irish woman very much in touch with angels called Lorna Byrne. This part of her interview resonated with me:

"In absorbing the pain of others"... it's a role she's happy to accept because "in doing that role I know people are suffering less and that means an awful lot to me"..."I suppose God has allowed me to feel people's emotions and to take some of that to help them cope."

Unfortunately I'm not such a noble white entity...sometimes I really mind...it's such a Thankless Burden!! I think people in our position really deserve some kind of "source" we can tap into to replenish and consolidate our own life energy so we don't get drained and overly affected. I asked my friend how she managed to not get personally weighed down from absorbing others troubles and in terms of her own issues too where how does she "unload"? And the answer seemed so obvious...she talks to God!

But not being as naive a creature as I, she also admitted that she's always been aware of the need to "protect" herself and has managed to achieve this by always keeping a "distance" and "a barrier" from other people...she admits this means she's never been close to anybody....ever.

What a strange idea...perhaps this is the way to go...I guess this whole issue lies in that grey area which I am still learning to grow into. Sometimes I wish all that existed is white= good and bad=black(metaphorically speaking) and that everybody else could distinguish these two shades as easily as some of us can...

4 comments:

Shannanigans said...

If it were as easy as black and white, we wouldn't be able to learn anything and grow.

I'm reading the dark entity link you sent me right now.

Healingstones said...

I think you need to think about balance - also what you are getting out of it. I went through a long phase of attracting very needy people who were very negative and draining. I realised that I was gettig a payoff - they made me feel I was doing something worthwhile in 'helping them' offload. But there is a price - and you end up drained. As a complementary therapist it is your job to help - but keep it in the therapy room. I found I had to do this because I was getting worn out. It is your nature to be compassionate and a listening ear - but be careful. There must always be a balance. These days I don't cut out negative people from my life (cos often these people have other sides that are special and I think it is good to have all kinds of friends) but I do limit my contact - especially if I'm feeling low. Balance is the key.

Asianmommy said...

Interesting post--I think it's true that you give when you can, and then when you've given all that you can give, it's OK to take a step back from it when you need to.
We all need to rest up and replenish before moving forward again.

koala brains said...

How do you replenish the energy? We all have different tolerance levels and mine is on the low end. I'm empathic so can take on a person's mood very easily so what I end up doing is avoiding those type of people because I'm not sure how to put up the wall to protect myself. Is there a way to do this?