Monday, October 13, 2008

Pervs.

I wasn't going to mention it but the topic kind of cropped up...

my girlfriend rocked up today in a super-short skirt and some pretty high high heels...

me: that's a really short skirt!
her: yeah.
me: oh well at least you've got leggings, would you dare wear it without leggings?
her: oh yeah!

haha...I remember last year (the season of the micro mini) trying on the longest available skirt in the shop, examining it riding up my ass and thinking shit it's short! and at 26, that I was totally way too old to be wearing it!

So anyway now that I've gotten used to just how short skirts get, I no longer think their wear should be confined to younger age groups...but...I still wouldn't wear one in public! It's not actually that I'm being old fogey conservative or prudish...cos really, I have no qualms wearing minimal clothes in the privacy of my own home (provided there is a point: when the piece of material doesn't even cover your ass when you sit I'm not quite sure the point...you may as well walk around naked, which again, in the privacy of my own home, no issue, as long as it's Comfortable! ;)

The reason why I would never be seen in public in THAT short a skirt is plain and simple...Pervs! Basically, I think when you dress like that realistically, you're just asking for Trouble...

For me this whole modesty issue is also grounded in desiring a certain level of respect. And basically I don't think that's possible if all men notice is some ass walking around on legs...I'm not BLAMING them as such- I know it's all about their biological makeup blah blah they're visual, governed by their nether regions and have a weakness for low cut tops, long hair, short skirts and high heels etc etc...

It just gets kind of tiring (and perhaps I speak for at least some of my gender here)...this total objectification of women...if you just get whistled at instead of spoken to doesn't that sometimes make you feel just like a dog?!

...At least in regional areas you're a bit more tolerant cos the population is small, and single men rarely see any single women...but here, the population is a lot bigger so you get "perved on" or at least stared at a lot more frequently....even from my personal experience with my male friends- you can't even have a concentrated conversation with them cos their eyes are constantly flicking back and forth checking out every single female that passes within their line of vision!! The saddest part also is alot of men are actually "attached" but they just can't help themselves! :P

Sometimes when this kind of behaviour is more overt, it leads me to believe that a lot of people in relationships aren't actually happy in their relationship- rather it is a "safety holding pen" until they find someone better...(and that's 90% honesty speaking as opposed to jadedness.)

I know if you can be more attractive it has it's advantages- you sure get treated better when you dress better etc but I don't appreciate brainless superficiality in any form so being a subversive creature of nature...I deliberately dress down to avoid being a voluntary conspirator... A good experiment actually to illustrate just how superficial people are by nature is to go deal with the same people a) looking your worst b) looking your best...results are astounding!!!!

In the end though it's about personal choice- if dressing better gives you the self confidence you otherwise lack and you enjoy the attention or being stared at and are willing to put up with all this kind of crap than Happy Days to You!

I can only imagine how annoying it must be for women who look like Barbie Dolls...how hard must it be for them to get any respect let alone ever be taken seriously or have anyone believe that they might actually possess a brain?!

In the end dressing down deliberately or never dressing up makes sense because you don't want to attract anybody that is so superficial and shallow they only like you for being presentable on the external at that particular moment not for who you really are, and would likely want to dump you as soon as they see your normal reality at 6am in the morning sans makeup, blow dried hair and freshly brushed teeth ;)

Finally, this post brings to mind this woman in New Zealand lol.

6 comments:

markymark2099 said...

can't help it...women look good in those clothes. doesn't matter if you're in a relationship, guys will always look :) doesn't mean anything though...its just like looking at a mona lisa or picasso...admiring its beauty...and then the thought is gone...

and yes you're right, i need to get out more :P

Healingstones said...

Your comment "some ass walking around on legs" conjured a bizarre image and I giggled. But I agree that at the end of the day it is a woman's choice what she wears - but like you say, if you wear ultra short skirts you got to be prepared for men to oggle you (they can't help themselves) so if you don't want that sort of attention don't wear skirts that are really belts in disguise. Maybe in a few thousand years men will have evolved enough for this not to be an issue...

Also, imho, you should only wear such skirts if you have the legs for it. That rules me out... But I have some hilarious (I shouldn't say it but it's true) pictures of my older sisters from the 60s/70s when they just could not buy longer skirts anywhere. The result - well it was a disaster (!)

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Shannanigans said...

That's how I knew it was true love with Steve, when he woke up beside me to my dishelved hair, morning breath, no make up and leg stubble and didn't care one bit. Of course he looks just as bad in the morning so it was a trade off :)
I don't care how other people dress, to each their own, but if you want to be taken seriously, you need to dress like you want to be taken seriously. For men or women.
In some ways it would be better if we were all blind, then we would have no other choice but to know people for who they are instead of what they look like

Dina said...

I agree with you.

I mean I'm disgusted with the idea that women are to blame for rape when they wear certain clothes. Rape should NEVER happen....even if you walk out into the street naked.

But I do think if you're going to wear eye-catching clothes, than you're going to be looked at.

If you have large breasts and you wear a tight low cut shirt, then don't be shocked if a man looks at your chest instead of your eyes. Heck, I have a hard time not looking at their chest.

If you want people to look at your EYES while you talk, than wear funky glasses or something.

Ariad said...

Yeah, that's why I shaved all my hair off when I was twenty cause I did perhaps look a little like barbie. (Well I don't have really big tits but I did have blonde hair.) And I immediately found that men gawked at me less as a sexual object. Althogh then they gawked at me as a freaky person:) Oh it seems you can never win. But you can. It all comes from feeling good with how you look. And occasionally confronting the gawkers honestly, 'What are you looking at?'

Healingstones said...

"In some ways it would be better if we were all blind..." I love that comment Shananigans! Your man is one lucky guy - I hope he appreciates you.