1) (in my humble opinion) is FAITH and a relationship with GOD...of course unless this awareness has been gifted to you you won't have it....but don't give up! All happens in the right time :)
2) The latter that follows...which we humans DO have control over is how we choose to behave and act. One of the most powerful behaviours a human can adopt I think is Acceptance. Acceptance of circumstances they can't change etc. Because once you accept, it means you can let go of attachment to thoughts of what might have been, what could have been, what might be, what will be...you relinquish your need to control and just connect to the present moment. And this is all we can be certain of...so we may as well enjoy each beautiful moment and just LIVE!
Clinking my glass to you! ♥ & Light *Zoe*! :)